A familiar story with questions. II

[Treasur]

I'm sorry, RR17. This is a tough hard place to be, isn't it?

I think one of the confusing balances of DB is something 25 posted somewhere else. Life has just smacked you in the chops. You can choose to use it as fuel to become your best happiest self. That might save your M or maybe not, but it will definitely save you either way. The alternative is to focus just on your W/M and that's a gamble. I think we all struggle with seeing how DBing for us is different than DBing for our M, especially at the early stages.