New to the journey and thank you.

[Kylo]

I reread the parts on WW and MLC just to be sure I'm not shooting from the hip. The MLC just rings true. She checks all the boxes. I think there is a WW aspect to it since we weren't getting along well for an appreciable amount of time and from her point of view I was the cause of the problems.

She runs ice cold to cold. We rarely talk, and when we do it's about kids or family business. I read other people's stories here and they're having interactions and conversations that we just don't have.

As for an A, it doesn't really change the DB approach. In the past I thought an A might not bother me so much. I envisioned her being out one night drunk and messing around a little and that's it. At this point though, I know an A would likely be much more than that. I can't really tell how much it would bother me.

I know she didn't have anything to do with her grandparent's suicide, which probably screwed up her narcissistic mother, which resulted in two divorces, which led to her BPD, which rolled out a red carpet for her MLC, which puts her in a prime spot for an A. But at some point you have to be responsible for your actions. I could lay out events that would make someone say: "No wonder he had an affair" (not on par with her sad experiences of course), but I didn't do it.