Act Now or Cry Later

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Gordie - no, he wasn't joking about the shoes. I can tell he wasn't.

Roist - yes! The title of my thread is about eating life with a big spoon. It's not about me deciding today what I am doing about my marriage. I can get lost and cry over this time at a later date when I realize I've wasted years or I can make the most of living. So "act now" is about stepping on the gas pedal of life.

Ciluzen - yikes! Some of those pronouncements read like "Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley" from SNL!!!

So one of my sisters came to visit for a few days. She was last here 1 1/2 years ago and prior to seeing h then she kept downplaying h's depression. Then, when she arrived she was floored and realized that yes, this was a crisis.

H did not hire a cleaning lady for his bathroom instead he cleaned it up himself! It was not really well done; still quite gross really but he straightened up. I thanked him for all his help.

When I arrived w/my sister he was out of his room and immediately joked with her: the same running joke he's always had with her. He asked her questions and was engaged w/her.

When he left the room she was floored and said he seemed so much better: more aware of what was going on around him, regaining his sense of humor and more alert. At times he laughed and it was genuine. He looked her in the eye at times. (And every once in a while he looks me in the eye as well.) I don't talk about him with her. In fact I said I needed to not talk about him as I needed some break from it all. So her read was not biased by me.

Anyway, we had a great visit, though too short. H did not opt to do anything with us when we went out w/the kids. It was funny to watch him make up excuses. But he often offered to help to give us alone time. And that courtesy was different too.

H has been in his room a lot. It was so nice for me to have the adult conversation.