I need of advice from Belgium

[SwHubby]

If you feel "safe" meeting in-laws (nothing abusive etc on their side), then think about it as a celebration of your kid and that your presence will be highly appreciated.

I have already been struggling with how to behave when I will get the same kind of invitation when my D will celebraste her birthday (October). That I don't want to go and pretend to be a happy family etc. But that it would be something I will do for D, not W.

But do think about it and try not to make a desicion based on emotions. Just think it through a couple of times first and you will find the right answer for you.