My reconciliation with my W seemed fake because she was still working with OM. About a year later he got promoted and would be my W's daily supervisor. I knew I was done. She knew I could barely tolerate them in the same building, let alone being her new boss. I was done, NYG. I mean, DONE. I contacted a lawyer (W didn't know) and I was discussing my options.
That same day, W came home early, she had resigned immediately. The anxiety and fear disappeared. The weight was off my chest. It was truly done. We're still recovering from that year, but as long as there's no contact, I'm ok.
She had visited her old place last month and this set us back, and we're working through that setback. She didn't go to see OM, she told me she made sure he wasn't there, she missed her old work buddies, apologized to me, admitted it was a mistake. Said she will not go there again. I believe her.
I'm a firm believer that spouses cannot continue to work with APs. It just can't work.
Me: 52 Her: 48 2D 26 & 16 M: 25 years (together 30) EA/discovered by accident Valentines day 2016 Admitted SOME physical but no IC. We know that's a lie. Status - tryin to R
