Leah, part 4

[leahsue]

Thanks, Blu! I've printed out your post, pulled the old worn DB book back out, and also Sandi's rules. Crash course before the weekend!
I agreed to see him this weekend, but told him I have a few conditions, which he readily agreed to.

I just had a GREAT sessions with my IC. She had a good point. When I was telling her about the playful afternoon we had last week, I said how good it had felt to just enjoy each other without trying to figure out all the hard stuff, especially without a counselor to guide us in that discussion. She said you won't believe how many couples sit right here, struggling to stay married, because they've lost that playfulness. She said I actually give homework to a lot of them to try and bring some of that back, because that's what helps make a marriage work- to still enjoy each other's company. She strongly suggested I use this weekend to be light, have fun, enjoy him, and save the hard stuff for MC, if we get to that point. No need to try and drag it all out and solve it over a three day visit, with no professional help. Plus, if the weekend isn't what we both want in terms of beginning a new relationship, not sure the junk from the last 8 months would matter.

I know there are going to be hundreds of opinions about how to handle the weekend. (There already are, between this forum, and my close friends and sister.) In the end, I just have to put them all together and pick out a plan that works for me.

Now if he CANCELS, then that's a whole new story line! I'm not even going to go there for now.

Moving forward to better days, no matter what the weekend brings!