Should I try to get away from these folks while DBing? They always liked me a lot.
No not at all, you keep maintaining those relationships if they are important to you as it sounds like they are. Just don't use them to try and get info about W or "rally them to your cause" or anything like that.
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They obviously love W but says she is too mean and starts stuff. Them saying that has also helped me learn that yes I been hung up on being a distant husband but the street goes both ways. She isn't the easiest person to get along with.
Absolutely. Long term marriages rarely get into trouble because one spouse is perfect and the other is a hot mess. They get into trouble because of the actions of BOTH spouses. But BD has a strange effect, in addition to it making the WAS forget there was ever any good in the R, it makes the LBS forget that there was any bad in it. Both are looking at the M through rose-colored glasses, but with completely opposite filters. Eventually the fog starts to clear for both and the WAS starts remembering things weren't so horrible, and the LBS starts remembering things weren't always perfect.
