Thank you for saying that. You are right: there is no way that I can predict now how the outcome could have changed or if it would have. The end result might have been the same or even worse. ... I think the reason it is important for me to acknowledge my actions is because I also need to have some accountability. My H has shouldered all of the blame (and guilt) in the breakdown of our M, however I certainly played a big part in that as well. I am still working on making some changes in myself, and so looking at how I could have done things better will hopefully lead to me making better choices in the future. I am trying to be less emotionally reactive in all of my Rs. It also helps me with forgiveness, which is still a work in progress. I want to forgive H, and I mostly do, but I am looking for and wanting more.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela