Wow. We really are having same issues. I know I keep saying that! Had conversation with lawyer last night regarding: husband not responding; husband's lawyer not responding; getting a copy of a letter he sent me from his lawyer to him where it mentions that his lawyer was processing things through because he thought husband wanted to get re-married but understood why he may not want to file for Divorce Absolute because of the "emotional distress" I am in. WTF!!! I can just imagine what husband is saying and does he truly believe I am just waiting around for him and love him so much!!
Plus, find it interesting he sent me that letter after I texted him I was disappointed he didn't respond to attending or making an appointment with the Mediator. Now she has to send him a formal request. Can't file to court without Form A signed from her. Think he sent it to me so I cauld see he wants to get remarried even though I have asked him on a few occasions if he was going to remarry and that was why he wasn't agreeing to not apply for DA until finances were settled and he said NO.
Those that are still reading... no, it has not gone unnoticed that maybe he thinks I am waiting around for him because A. I am/was. But in fairness, since he is a WAH he really has no idea what my life is about aside from credit card bills. I have still vacationed and travelled but because I have not moved back to the States (for legal reasons and my beloved cats which I cannot take to a large city as they are outdoor, roaming the fields cats). He can't see my changes because I have not seen him in 9 months, and I have gone extremely dim. I have worked hard on GAL and making friends, keeping busy, etc.
Treasur, I am with you. I feel like I am missing a 180 but not sure what that is. I have tried expressing anger at times and that doesn't work, tried to just communicate normally but not engage, tried being friends but I messed that up when I learned he was taking OW2 away on big holiday, after speaking to me on phone for an hour or 2 every day. I get confused with boundaries I think. Thought he was cake eating by having my emotional support and friendship while off with OW2.
He was very good friends with his first wife as they parted very amicably and she remarried the guy she met a few months earlier from when my husband and I met. They had no kids as she didn't want them. And we all got along very well. I thought it showed a maturity in my husband to have thar relationship and I know a few other couples that are the same. I chocked it up to them being young when they became couple and growing apart. Now I am rea mining that theory. Anyway, wanted my husband to know that the best friend happy ex couple scenario was a one off. When divorce is final, I am gone and door is slammed shut. I think that is why I have left it open a crack.
Sorry if my posts are disjointed as I am one finger typing on my iPad because I do not trust the security of my home computer.
Me-54 H-49 T-1. M-7 BD 6/13 ILYBN I threw him out OW - 3/13 OW2 on and off Overlap w/Ow1and OW3 OW3 - 8/17 H filed 1/17
