New to the journey and thank you.

[Kylo]

Treasur. OK, you win on the fastest divorce in history as measured by the words spoken about it.

Thanks for the advice. I like the idea of a new relationship. In one of the 2 discussions we had after she stated her intentions, I mentioned this to her, and she seemed to like the idea, but no movement of course.

I'm going to approach separating the money again. When I approached her about a budget, she flipped out and said I better "lawyer up". Since I'm trying to keep this to mediation at most, I backed off. Later she acted like she didn't say it, then started moping about the budget.

For the practical stuff: She planned on finishing her degree and enrolled in a summer school course. It was too much work, so she dropped it. A quick end to a grand plan. I think she said something about not going back to school at all anymore.

I think she wants a job, but hasn't started to look. Now that school has started, hopefully that will change. If she gets a job that pays enough she can move out. I found one for her, but she wasn't ready for it. She used to claim she needed a degree for a good job, now she is getting picky, but doesn't have a degree. She has volunteered at school for two positions that take up a ton of time that will become an excuse to not get a job. She doesn't think she can just leave her positions (although people leave them for jobs all the time) probably because of guilt. She now claims these positions are more important than what happens in our house. I'm pretty sure this outlandish claim was made so she can be "right" and avoid guilt. (when I lay this out in black and white, I wonder what the hell I'm doing?)

As for an affair, I doubt it, but I'm not an idiot. Previously, she said "when would I have time?" which seems true. She also made a comment about being without a guy for awhile (she has had a boyfriend of some sort since 7th grade. One of them for 7 years through HS and college). However she does go out a decent amount.

She is seeing a counselor 1xweek, the one who supposedly told her to get a divorce. I have no idea what he is telling her, or what she is telling him.