So gave it some though i can limit contact during the week but its her choice if she comes to church i guess i can limit conversation there.
Limiting contact is a part of the equation. Think of it like this: If you have ALWAYS went to church at 10:30am on a Sunday, stay with that routine. If she shows up, and sits by you...so be it.
But don't call and ask: "are you going to church on Sunday", or "well, see you on Sunday"
Its not about ignoring or shunning, it just about being "less available". Thanks for the clarification woundedfool
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How can i test the statment that this is actually helping her?
You don't, right now continue to focus on you.
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I have noticed a better connection with kids like i said in previos comments it seems to unravel near the end of visits..
Well, stop going down cheese-less tunnels: Once you notice some unraveling toward the end... start to do something different.
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I do not have blinders on i know there is a chance my w is a WW as explained by Sandi2 i just have seen no proof of it
How would it change your path if she was wandering?
I truly think i would view this all a different way... easy to say i could go on but i dont know. I respect the people that have found out and continue to fight for ther marriage.
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I would thing some signs would be evident she still seem so messed up and unkept. Overthinking again....
Ride on the bike did relax me need to continue with that!
Yes you are overthinking.... and YES the bike ride did clear your head. Do you see a connection why the GAL's are important?
Weekends are a killer for me too much time to think. Have my next weekend planned out will stay busy.
