My husband filed for divorce

[LAJar]

Treasur,

What he's conveyed to me about being controlling, it had to do with our house renovations. That's difficult to show a reversal when we're not even discussing any of that. I'm sure there are other instances, but again petty small things that I should have let go.Since he's left, I'm moving forward with some basics that need to be completed if/when we sell the house. The only thing I thought about was getting him to weigh in on that. I would feel him out first to see if I should even broach the subject. I guess just listening and validating is what I can do overall.

Yes, I was planning on keeping it to maybe 30 minutes. If necessary even telling him I have to be somewhere. I will only stick to the D, selling the house. If he brings up our R, what do I do with that? Do I avoid the topic?

Since yesterday, my brother decided not to call him after I told him about the text. He did, however, talk to my son about it and my son ended up asking to talk and he responded quickly. I was told that last week my son had driven by my FIL's house (where he's staying) but decided against stopping in because he was too mad. Since that point he's calmed down, but hadn't told me he did this, so yesterday I asked him. He said he was going to tell me at some point this week. He said he's confused because we're giving him 2 different stories. I owned up to controlling & some other issues he brought up. Where it differs is the effort put in. He has in his head we've tried in the
past, but that I never made any changes. He made it seem as if we had gone to continuous therapy sessions & it just didn't work. We went to 3, they changed our therapist after the 1st & I didn't too much care for the 2nd. They were scheduling us 4-6 weeks apart and I was frustrated. I'll speak for myself, things were "fine" and I became complacent. Maybe he feels my lack of effort was from not continuing on. I did find another therapist months later, went alone & paid out of pocket so I could go more frequently and went for about 6 months. That was about 6 years ago. I just didn't realize he was at this point and my behaviours were affecting him so much. I would like the opportunity to work on myself & make positive changes. My son said he only spoke about the D and doesn't seem like he wants to try.
Long answer regarding meeting goal, is really just to hear him out. He's persisted on meeting so we could work this out amicably. I will hear his suggestions and say I'll have to think about that & will get back to you. One odd thing, I was concerned he wasn't going to pay the mortgage, but I looked online & he did. He told my son I could live in the house & he'd pay it for as long as I needed. That really confused me. Maybe he's thinking w/ a clearer head now (financially speaking)? We only bought it 4 months ago. Just feels like staying as long as I need to will prolong the inevitable if he's not interested in reconciling. Thoughts?