Alright this is where I get confused. Gaining back respect should be your priority in my opinion. But the DR book has you in a position where your basically just being nice and giving a lot of your spouses negative behaviors a pass. Most of that would be cool, but having a OM in the picture isn't cool. Not to mention that contradicts the respect factor. How can they respect you if they know you will allow them to continue to disrespect You?
Concepts like 180s and GAL are great. And I encourage everyone to go hard with those things. But has anyone figures out how to actually balance the DR book concept without having to entertain disrespect. Because the word cake eating gets passed around this forum. And in a way cake eating is kind if what the DR book encourages you to do. If I am looking at this wrong please break it down for me.
