Something that stands out for me... you say "The overwhelming majority of her comments, texts, and emails are literally and absolutely negative.".... Is there any validity to her comments? It seems to me that maybe she's telling you exactly what's wrong with your marriage, but you're blowing it off. In retrospect, that's one aspect of what happened in my marriage.
Validate her comments, listen without arguing, don't pursue.... reread Sandie2's rules.
Regarding the deployment... IMHO, don't do it, primarily because it would just put one more roadblock between you and reconciliation. Time and distance are your friends, but let's not get carried away.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
