Hey tread T and doodler, from what I read that in house deal stinks. I have no idea what I would do if I see my wife flat out talking to OM in my face. I cant say what I would rather really because I haven't experienced in house since W left unannounced. I don't think I said this on here but it was roughly October 6, 2016. My W talked like it was normal that day up until about lunch time. I leave work at 5 and still haven't heard from her so I'm hoping she is ok. I get down my street and can see tire marks in my yard. I get closer then see clothes in the driveway. Believe it was W's belt and a shoe. I open my console in my truck and get my gun and rush inside. I run in and see a ghost town. I was so worried about W's safety and I get home to this nonsense.

Still getting a few flashbacks such as that one but everything else is going pretty smooth. My W gets uglier every time I see her (not in physical sense but I think you get what I'm trying to say). So I'm not sure if I'm obsessed with the idea of being married or actually love W. Thinking about the countless hrs wondering if she was ok before BD make me a little angry still but trying to move past that.

Other than described, getting happier by the day. Progressing slow but I don't expect anything to happen overnight.


M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year
T 7 Years

Wife left October 2016
Affair began August 2016

Me 31 years old
Wife 29 years old