So being newish to all this, most of the analysis of traits has been done on past events, but last night I experienced it real time.
She ordered 50 eclipse glasses for school off of Amazon. Well Amazon declared they couldn't be sure of the glasses' safety and refunded the money. In turn, she now has to tell the school that we can't use these glasses anymore. She tells me the story and I agree with her the whole way (I probably would have done the same thing). At the end I give her a sarcastic "Way to go" as a joke. She gets upset and tells me I always try and make her feel guilty when she screws up.
I tell her I was just joking.
She says it isn't funny.
I tell her I thought it was funny (there's a part of me that wants to tell her to take a hike).
About 5 minutes later I come back in and tell her: "I meant to say I'm sorry. I didn't mean to hurt your feelings." Which is true, that wasn't my purpose. I think she liked the apology.
It feels a bit surreal when you know why she's doing what she is doing, but you can't tell her. I know I would make mistakes, but I feel like I could help. Patience, patience, patience.
M: 41 W: 41 Married 2003 2 boys 9 & 6 Bomb Dropped May 2017