New to the journey and thank you.

[Kylo]

Wow, that is rough! You are right though. The tightness of the money has definitely played a role in her wanting out. She believes and portrays herself as not a "gold digger" type, but she has said how being broke [censored]. It (me) also stopped her in her tracks for her "next thing": a house with a better yard. (I've read the BPD always have a project or a "next thing"). I called her on it before I knew anything about BPD, and she finally admitted it, but couched it as something "all normal people do."

We've had influxes of money, but then spending increases and they disappear in no time. I played a role in this, but now I've figured it out.

I've told her over and over the key to happiness is being thankful for what you have, and she can't even agree to that. In the beginning, when she liked me, she definitely would have agreed.