Leah, I am again, trying to zip my lips and refrain from 2by4s (I said trying) I do get tired of being the Debbie Downer around here :-( I just don't understand what you are doing and why.
He left you, was selfish, lied, kept stringing you along while having an A, and now he is flirting and playing games!?! Are you okay with this? I mean, I am trying to understand why you even had drinks and that flirty date with him (while planning a D) and now you want him to be jealous of you? ... I am so confused! I feel like this is some high school drama that I can't quite keep up with ... Okay I guess the 2by4 slipped out. Sorry! lol. So instead I will pose some questions:
1. What are your goals with this M? or D? 2. What are you doing from your side to achieve those goals? 3. What are you communicating to your H about what you want? 4. What do you need from him in order to have an R with him? ... Or do you simply want him to desire you .... 5. How are you communicating those needs?
He seems conflicted, selfish, and not sure how to proceed. .... The thing is, you can't control anything that he does/says and you can't mind read. You can however teach him how you deserve to be treated. Right now the message you are sending is that he can cheat, come, then go, text, or not text, and then he can just decide he may (or may not) want to be M so you "some day," and you will probably be available either way to have some fun and drinks by the pool ... chit. Another 2by4. Sorry. Okay I am just going to submit this and not look back .....
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
