RD I love your parasite analogy, my special thanks to a very loving friend from the Emerald Isle. Your gran is very wise indeed in the way they always are.
Treasur as soon as possible I will check in with you.
Sandi much love to you, I always include you and your previous D in my votive ceremony. Thank you for your care, if you are reading, peace and love to you.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
((((Vanilla)))) You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. All I know for sure is that you are a tough lady and you will come out of this smelling like the proverbial rose. Hang in there, lady and keep on keeping on.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Wow - I don't know what your courts are like there, but here in the U.S. he would be laughed out of court for thinking he is entitled to anything after only a year and a half marriage.
KML the period a couple lives together counts as part of the M. So in total it's 3 years, ending 3 years ago. Fin action can be brought at any time unless the applicant has remarried (anytime even after death for funeral expenses).
The payment is assessed on a 'needs' basis! So the G having spent all his money and his pension now has a 'need'.
Those who walked the M with me will know how the G avoided service of the D petition, hoping to get over the 5 year line. However it is S that signals the end of an M in the UK not filing date. The G misunderstood it.
The 5 year line is more or less a short M and decided cases start from a 50:50 basis (broadly speaking) although up to 10 ish years there is lots more judges discretion.
This is generally more protective of the STHP making a homemakers contribution equally valid. My objection is that a wastrel and a pragmatist are left with only one set of assets that then have to be divided. The G has wasted in 6 years more money than I have assets and now he is chasing for 50% of my assets (the only things left) except that he has hidden pensions he didn't disclose.
Some of this is hilarious, no one would believe it! Lies, lies, lies and oh yes even more lies. Fabricated rental receipts, hidden cash and unexplained payments. I wonder if he will get away with it as his entitled arse expects, or if in judgement it gets a swift kick. Really I haven't a clue.
Poor old BIT thinks he is going to be a rich man when his exW pays up. Poop, fans and hit in any order when the truth emerges. Or maybe he can gaslight the facts away?
Who knows I sit and wait.
So 3 years in total for M including the living together part.
Yes, anywhere else no kids would be laughed out of court, not here in the UK.
Sad but true
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Your safety is priority. Just let us know, when you feel secure. Take our love and concern with you in your daily tasks. Life is so unfair, but you can.....and will survive. (((Vanilla)))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself and stay as safe as possible.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
