LiM: One Year into Piecing

[DonH]

I was about to ask how you have come to this clearly mind reading conclusion but it would appear you've admited that's what you have done - based on your last sentence. But why? Why are you wanting to sabotage your chances at a happy R with your W? It's as if you are looking for any tiny item so you can then say "see, I knew she still wants OM and does my love me." Why? What does that get you? Or are you afraid to put in the work or afraid to be vulnerable enough to let her back in? All she did was text someone that she saw OM and the rest you have concocted. You don't know if your conclusions are true or not.

This is all very hard but I see so many here regret their actions after their spouse leaves them. Only then do they look back at their actions and see what they have done wrong. I hope this is not what you do. I really hope your W does not get fed up and leave, only for you to THEN see how your actions contribute.

It seems clear you need to get some pro marriage IC help here. I think that could really help you sort things out. I would just really hate for you to have been given the result so many of us here have prayed for - only to give it all away. Please don't do that!