Wife wants to leave marriage 4

[Treasur]

Tread - you can't control other people's opinions or reactions about the A. And it could backfire on you depending on why you're doing it. Shaming people rarely brings out their best. Maybe there is a dignified middle line between not denying the reality of it but not feeding the drama flames either. And spouses find the oddest way to deny/excuse things, playing with dates or saying 'in my head the M was over so it wasn't really an A' etc.

You can't know what losses will really hurt for your W. Evidently, right now, her current losses aren't enough but no way of predicting it. Like when people decide to get sober?

Maybe it would be better for you long-term to take the GAL high road?