Thank you. Yes it is my job to clean the garage. He doesn't live here so it wasn't his stuff. And yes I need to change my ways. For myself. Which I am constantly doing. Evolving. I am working out again. I forgot how much I love doing that. I am now doing things for myself that I never would have done if I were still in my relationship. I am taking new classes. Exploring my spiritual side with the Reiki. I now KNOW I will be ok if he never comes home. I still believe he will. But a few months ago I would have accepted any version of him. Now I know I will Only accept the version I want. The one where he is willing to put the work into the relationship to make it work. But if this isn't what he wants then we cut ties and go our separate ways. The limbo is horrible. And I am sure it is difficult for him as well. I text him and told him the doors look wonderful and I thanked him for his help. And left it at that.
