SwH, sorry to hear you're going through this. Sounds like my W, trying to push things through and be done as soon as possible.
At this point I recommend you close the door on your M and start planning your future without your W. Work on yourself and your plan for being with D4. Be strong!
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18