My husband and I have been having a rough go of things. I didn't fully realize it was going on until it was too late. I had become dependent and wasn't happy around him/paying attention to relationship. Things weren't getting better (in his head/thoughts) so I agreed to in-house seperation. I have done a great job of giving him space (he even indicated in his letter), but he left a letter last Friday, saying he felt trapped and was taking a vacation and would be back Saturday. He indicated previously, I love you but something is missing. I indicated previously I thought we should work on things if he was unhappy, but since we started seperation have not brought up at all. I am some what ticked because he didn't communicate his unhappiness until till late. I know he is concerned that my turn around isn't permanent because he said so. I am trying my best to exhibit behaviors I should have had before and I am pretty sure that is catching him off guard. He indicated he is really confused and thinks he may need to move out. We had agreed to do something together once a week and it's almost been two. Do I try to schedule something for when he supposedly comes back on Saturday (before he flies out on Sunday for work)? Or leave it alone? I have read all of the links that Cadet normally posts, I am just confused because I feel like husband is more confused with being given more space...
Hello SH21,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
It sounds like your changes have been noticed, just difficult to believe at this point. These changes need to be made for you. They need to be long lasting and sincere. Prove that to yourself and anyone else through your actions, not your words.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
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