If if would be in consultation ever, is it a good idea to say that I only would do it, when she leaves immediately after been filed in? Or is the best way to still love "together"? I mean for fixing a emotional connection is it better to separate for her of better in the long term to stay together and that I try to deal with this rare situation.
For most people, nothing really changes as long as the WAS lives under the same roof. It's really difficult to give them the "time and space" they want when they're living there. Plus it keeps the LBS in limbo, they have trouble letting go if the WAS is right there every day. But every situation is unique, so you have to decide what is best for you.
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Since some weeks I am pulling away and working about myself. I am feeling allready like Glenn version 2.0. Everyday I feel I am growing mentally (how to deal with life) and also physically. When she mentioned the break up, the day after I started running every two days, doing kettebells exercises, eating healthy; I was once a rugbyplayer. In january I weighted 103 kg and now 88 kg. I am full of energy. I allways said that I dreamt of been 88 kg. The break up triggered it .
Great stuff, keep it up! And yes, the BD diet is the most effective known to humankind, LOL!
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After one week Elise didn't not wear her wedding ring anymore. She declares it would be a lie wearing him. At this day I still wear mine. But yesterday I thougHt the following: My wedding ring is a gift from her symbolIsing her love too me. That love is "gone" or "hidden" very deep. I want to still wear my ring, but ...
This has come up a lot in other threads. There's no "right" or "wrong" thing to do, some people prefer to keep wearing it and others take it off as soon as the WAS does. In my case I never wore my ring much anyway because I was always working on cars, motorcycles and house construction so I didn't have to deal with it.
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I would sound perhaps very strange to you, but If one couple can be together after "this" once, it is we... Nevertheless I don't life with stupid hope. But in life everything is possible.
Oh yes, absolutely. There are plenty of reasons to hope! It just takes a lot longer than you might expect. I've said it before, but if LBS's had more patience I think a lot more M's would be rekindled. But much of the time when the WAS decides to recon, the LBS is done. So be patient and you never know what may happen!
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