it's true that small consistent changes are more credible than dramatic gestures.
The 180s are part of the DB approach b/c she thinks she knows you, she believes that you are a known quantity.
If you GAL in something New and different for you, that's of interest. If you repair things she wanted repaired or worked on long ago, that's of interest.
If you are a bit mysterious, that is of interest. After all, what if you waiting around for her were not a given?
What if she risked losing you and the marriage and home you two have built?
Most women I know, including those who had "Flings", did not want to trade in their family lives for an AP - when faced with the choice. When not faced with having to choose, most went along having their cake.
Food for thought.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
