My history of anger is typically frustration at my old job. Anything regarding my W was brought about in defensive. Someone says something bad about me, then I would say something worse in retaliation. But I learned after this sitch started that is a form of anger. So I stopped doing that involving my W. Now the problem with that is my W clearly views that as me beibg declawed and defanged. So she now talks crazy with the verbal consequence from me.
Now I willing just to sit back and not say anything about OM and the other forms of disrespect. But according to the people on this board, W will never respect you as long as you sit back and continued to say nothing. So I agreed and as a result I now have to be prepared to enforce that boundary.
My anger at this point is that I have been assaulted and forced to call the police. Not out of fear, but to cover my own a**. Because she called her father right after and lied to him. I swore I would never call the police on family. But my W lies and decent forced me to make that decision. After that I realized that this more than just trying to save a MR, but I have to look out for my future as well.
I have validated my W feelings and have empathize with them. But as long as that fog is up, nothing else means a thing to my W. I am doing a good job keeping my anger to myself at home. Even during the talks of OM, which I find myself biting my tongue a lot. But I am seriously venting in this board, because I am just fed up. And I can't seem to think of a reason other financial ruin to keep my W around. Sitting quietly hoping the bully will leave you and change their ways is not working. And that has a lot to do with not having to deal with real consequences.
My W has yet to hear from OM W. But I am seriously giving OM W all my W contact information. So that hearing or seeing OM W can add reality to that fantasy. Due to me staying silent her family or OM family extended have no idea abiut the A. If they found out that ruin my W good person reputation. One of our beat friend couples has completely cut her off. And are other best friend coupl e rarely even speak with her since this has all taken place.
