WAS OR WHAT 10

[roist]

It is a pity that the private message section of this site isn't activated, though I understand the reasoning behind that.

Gordie we are guided be who we let guide us and in a direction we want. People seek out anything that goes in the direction they seek. Two people could read the same self help article and get two completely different meanings/learnings from it.

I am not saying W intentionally sought out someone to tell her to D you. But she was/is unhappy. People even therapists seek to stop that pain and in some cases the quick fix is get rid of the spouse. I say fix but we know that fixes nothing.

I had a longer message but I am out of time. You cannot control or influence this part of things. I know it is hard to be a spectator watching something that you don't want happen. Just let it be and concentrate on you.