It's a dick-like thing to come and invade your time and space
Full disclosure-- I did tell her she could drop by if she wanted to last week, and she did just that. Assuming she prolly took it as an open invite, especially since it is directly on her way back from work. (Though last night she obviously went home first.) And last night we had discussed the possibility of her coming by previously since we knew we had to pick up our son at the airport, though as I said I had thought the plan resolution was for me to just go. (And, obviously, she didn't need to be dressed to kill for that.)
As for "getting off on it", idunno. She has pretty significant body-image and self-confidence issues, which is pretty shocking because everyone who knows her tells her how good-looking she is, but... I know her and know this is pretty much true. And that I bear some of the blame for reinforcing that self-image by neglecting her for so long and making her feel unwanted. Which is how OM was able to come in and lavish her with praise, compliments and "make her feel pretty and desired", etc... But she still doesn't believe it of herself. She even gets angry defensive when she talks herself down and you say "no, really, you're beautiful." The way she put it a few weeks back was "look, I'm better than dog dirt, but I'm nothing special... and I think I can be okay with that." (Trust me, she is way, way WAY better than "dog dirt") Even the MC recognized that she has body image and self-confidence issues that are prolly affecting her. So, while she might be playing games with me, or playing me in some way, I doubt she is "getting off on it." Its just not who she is. She doesn't think she is all that good-looking.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
