WW in A. NC promise broke. Separation? (5th thread

[hoosjim]

Is ignoring her an option? What about simply leaving?

See, here's the thing, though. While I think you are prolly right, I can't completely discount the possibility that she is just trying to explore her feelings for me and that she just wants some no-pressure time together (as unproductive as that may actually be.) She's told me she's tired of the roller coaster and also that she wants to just try to "be in the moment" and see if we can build some positive interactions and momentum. Again, likely as not it's all B.S., but... if it's not B.S. it seems to me if I'm too much of a d**k about it I might just blow any chance I have-- remember that our background is a SSM and of me being neglectful, cold, self-absorbed, and fairly distant. On the off chance she is really trying and she sees me being the "same old same old" it might just turn her all the way off. I don't think just ignoring her or walking away from her would be the best move, here. Think I need to at least talk to her. OTOH, under the circumstances I know initiating MR talk is generally not advisable-- supposed to let her do it and then just listen.

My inclination is to have a talk with her about it, tell her I've seen nothing to make me think she wants to work on the MR and in fact she's told me she's uncertain as to WON she wants to and that, under the circs, we should prolly be spending our time apart... just need to think of best time/way to bring it up. But I am open to other suggestions.