Finding my way out of the dark - Part 3

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Thanks Joseph, Dusty, and AS!

My W did that BS when she moved out, took down all the pictures of us and put them in the closet. She didn't take any of them with her. I jokingly asked if she wanted one and she just gave me a look.

Well played! I wish my sense of humor would come back, but I'm just very resentful right now. I'm sure some sarcastic humor from me would drive W crazy. I should work on that.

I had a women ask some mutual friends who I was over 4th of July when we were out on the lake. I didn't do anything with it but it was a incredible boost of confidence!

Yes, it's a great boost! Since our spouses don't want us, it makes us feel unbelievably worthless. Getting that confidence back is part of rebuilding ourselves.

This going out and GAL thing gets pricey though! It's been a long time since I have just gone out with friends and forgot how much it cost's to be social sometimes!

Yes, it does. I try to limit my spending by being very frugal in other places. I figure I need to treat myself in this regard, since I've really neglected myself for so long.

As far as the opposite sex question.... I too have been getting noticed by woman at the gym, at work, other mom's in my sub and so on. While being married I felt it would disrespect my wife to talk with other woman, that's just how I am, now that I don't talk to my WW in that way anymore I really miss the interaction on a bit more of a personal level. Not sure if I could act on any of it as I am all about protecting my kids. We can't have both parents stepping outside the marriage until it's over.

I completely agree that now's not the time to act on these things. I still remind myself what I want to teach my sons about Rs and M. So any kind of crazy fling is totally off my radar. I do wonder, post-D, how I'll deal with dating in relation to my sons. I really want to be a good role model for them.

I'm just curious how far apart you are on what she is asking for versus what you are looking for?

Pretty far, and I know this may be a fight for me. She's very unrealistic about what's fair, considering ALL of our assets, as well as what's best for the kids.