WW in A. NC promise broke. Separation? (5th thread

[hoosjim]

I cant figure out what this woman (W) is up to. Last night, for second night in a row, she shows up at my new hangout. Wednesday I had gone there to see a friend of mine play (they have live music every night at happy hour) before going to my basketball league, and she volunteered to give me a ride over and then just stuck around and then yesterday evening was my usual Thursday "take my laptop to the outdoor patio bar and finish up my admin work for the day" outing. Now, I did have to go out to the airport later (8:40) to pick up family, but the plan had been for me to just go pick them up myself from the pub.

Instead, she showed up and it just knocked my socks off. She had gone home first and changed out of her work clothes-- not that her work clothes are frumpy or anything, they are pretty liberal where she works and she is always very attractively dressed-- and was just dressed to kill in some new off-the-shoulder outfit I had not seen before. All made up, too. Now, my W is a very (I would say extremely) attractive woman under any circumstances, but for a full second or two even I didn't recognize her when she walked in last night (though granted I was not expecting her to show up then and there)-- I just thought "wow" and then "oh double wow, that's mrs. hoosjim". At any rate, the point is, she had clearly gone out of her way to doll herself up for what she knew would be at most a casual hour or two with me at this outdoor patio bar. And it was a nice time-- no R talk, we just chatted, listened to the live music, joked (sometimes about the lady bartender there who she is convinced is interested in me), sat a little close to each other. Can't say there were any sparks, but it was nice. (And honestly, I can't say I am not a little intrigued by the idea of this bartender--younger, very pretty-- being interested in me. Not that I am interested in starting anything but it is just, idunno, "boosting" in some way to see interest from other females.)

At any rate, I really don't know what she is doing or where her head is at with this or even how I should be treating such scenarios. I'm trying as much as possible to just lead my own, separate, fun life right now-- she has not given any indication in the past two weeks that she is interested in "working on the MR" and I haven't asked. I assume that maybe she is, as she has previously indicated she thought would be a good idea, trying to just "be with hoosjim in the moment" and "see how that feels", but that effort to me seems doomed to failure without doing any "work" on the MR. Work for which I am pretty sure she is not ready. In the meantime, she is showing up and hanging out which, to me, seems like all it is doing is keeping us in limbo. On the one hand I enjoy her company very much and also feel like I don't want to be d**k and say "keep the heck away from me at my place" but, OTOH as I said it seems kind of counterproductive to be hanging out this way, and I am not sure what it is really accomplishing.