Chris, I got the below information from another poster in the forum who has been working with a DB coach. Hopefully you find it helpful.
"The ego always operates out of self interest. Protection. Reaction. The higher self always observes. There is no reaction in observation. Only being. Presence. Judgement, revenge, anger, emotion - all part of ego. Love, acceptance, calmness, presence, steady-ness - all part of higher consciousness
The more you can let things go and let things be, the faster your spiritual growth in this area. Release - have a loose hand. Let the Universe have some room to guide. EVEN if it hurts."
