Still here. Still not detached...

[Chris73]

Thanks LH.

You have been physically separated for 2 months so detachment should be right around the corner but first you have to drop the rope completely. What's holding you back?

Re-reading your quote below...

Just remember that nothing you do or say is going to turn this thing around right now.

My inability to accept this ^^ is precisely what's holding me back.

Primarily it's the fear/anger associated with losing my W and being forced into a part-time parenting situation. Plus the whole WTF part of what happened to my W and holding on to the idea that she going to snap out of it.

So it's basically "Who moved my cheese?" combined with Nice Guy Syndrome. I'm doing better with not letting these things affect my actions, but they still preoccupy my thoughts.

I'm taking the kids to the beach for a week very soon. I'm hoping to use the time away from work and my home life to regroup and refocus.