I agree w/OwnIt...do not contact him. The issue is between your D and your H. Your D can determine if and when she wishes to communicate w/your h because she's old enough to know her own mind about this. This is one situation that only your H can fix.

Hang in there...you are doing great.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.