I need of advice from Belgium

[Glenn82]

Hello Anotherstander,
Hallo Tobias (In Dutch overhere, you are kidding )

Anotherstander you mention MLC. She once said because of her mom, that she only will thinking on her self now...

All our family and common friends say the same thing, like you call it an "affair" down.

In Belgium there are two ways too divorce. The first one is in consultation with each other. The procedure is about 4 months.
That is the way she wants it. But like you said I don't want to "help" her with.
The other way is at court. The procedure is about 6 months. She has to do "all the work" then.
If if would be in consultation ever, is it a good idea to say that I only would do it, when she leaves immediately after been filed in? Or is the best way to still love "together"? I mean for fixing a emotional connection is it better to separate for her of better in the long term to stay together and that I try to deal with this rare situation.

I had allready heard of the so called limerence stage. And it seems so. At this moment I am watching youtube about that subject.

Since some weeks I am pulling away and working about myself. I am feeling allready like Glenn version 2.0. Everyday I feel I am growing mentally (how to deal with life) and also physically. When she mentioned the break up, the day after I started running every two days, doing kettebells exercises, eating healthy; I was once a rugbyplayer. In january I weighted 103 kg and now 88 kg. I am full of energy. I allways said that I dreamt of been 88 kg. The break up triggered it .

Her holiday is over today. Mine starts today for 2,5 weeks.
It is our youngest son his birthday today, he becomes 3.
Everyday we go on holiday (Italy, Crete, Rhodos). Normally we would go to Austria first because my best man will get married with an Austrian girl. Afterwards we would go to Croatia.
But that were the plans... Nevertheless I was present with the kids at the wedding in Austria some weeks ago. Drived by car all alone.
And today I booked a last minute to Mallorce (Spain), starting 17 th august till 30 th august.

After one week E didn't not wear her wedding ring anymore. She declares it would be a lie wearing him.
At this day I still wear mine. But yesterday I thougHt the following: My wedding ring is a gift from her symbolIsing her love too me. That love is "gone" or "hidden" very deep. I want to still wear my ring, but ...

I would sound perhaps very strange to you, but If one couple can be together after "this" once, it is we...
Nevertheless I don't life with stupid hope. But in life everything is possible.



I can only say, it does very good to me to be on this forum and been heard. Even when an ocean is across

Glenn