I am so sorry to hear that buddy. We've all been there, we all have had our share of crocodile tears flung at us, we all have been mind fcuked.
It is hard. It is hard to fathom how a person we shared our everything with just simply disappeared and another entity invaded their body. Mind blowing.
Excellent job not willing to move out, great response. Stick to your guns. Do seek legal advice, so you do not get caught with your pants down.
Anger is good, you are supposed to get angry. I know it would be best handled as a business transaction, but it it your LIFE we're talking about. Detach, detach, detach...
I know it sounds corny, but it is her, not you. It is damn near impossible not to take it personally, but it it your wife who has issues, not you. That is not to say you are without a blame (no one is (was), but just own up to your part of the situation and no more. Frankly your W's issues are no longer any of your business.
I am in a similar sitch as yourself, ages are just about the same, I too have 2 kids, D8 and S5, my BD was in June of 2014, so I am a couple of years ahead of you.
GAL and detach should be your mantra. Be the best dad you can to your kids, leave your W to sort her own mess...
