So as she moves closer should I ignore? Right now as I type she has sat on the sofa much closer to my chair, when she usually sits in a chair further away. The book says monitor and adjust and this board says move along. This is where I get confused.
Just caught up.
Monitoring on a daily basis is not going to work well. It will make you nuts. Monitoring is something that requires consistency that cannot be measured in daily interactions. (Other than maybe something that backfires big time).
AND monitoring frequently is the opposite of Detachment, which is a crucial step. Detachment is a two fold goal - it's for helping the marital relationship improve as you gain back your self self confidence apart from your wife's reactions to you,
and it is for your sanity and peace of mind.
Are you doing any GAL? It's not something to overlook.
Hang in there
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