I guessing by a lack of response that I am reading too much into this.

It's all very confusing when you are in the midst of it.

I found more anecdotal evidence leaning toward an OM. After the initial panic, I've realized it is possible, but far from factual.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.