advice please

[CW2017]

Hi Sandi
and thank you once again for the valuable insights. My W has been nothing but keen about the MC sessions. I suppose the one aspect about the last session was that around half of it was taken up with discussing her live-in mother. This I guess is all in the mix due to the control she still exerts over her. I even commented that this was likely to have contributed to my W doing what she did. I was intigued by your comment about the "controlling". Although she could not comment on what she might know during my previous solo session, the C did say that my W's "perception" might be one of controlling. I don't know but there is a possibility I might emit a "vibe" as I was treated badly in a previous relationship and those deeply buried trust memories might have come to the surface, who knows?

The more I think about the bedroom "activities" it has not been the case of one person initiating or not, as my wife knows I am ultra keen all the time but I tend to yield to her being "in the mood" herself (again another example of me being non-controlling!). I certainly go out of my way these days to compliment all aspects of her and I know she really appreciates it (maybe I have finally realised it is one of her "love languages"!). All in all, we are getting on just fine (and particularly in that department!), but that doesn't mean there isn't cake eating going on.

As our closest friends will be attending the 20th anniversary celebrations this Saturday I will be making an enormous fuss of her (it should be a good day all round as we are taking DD to the World Athletics in the morning). We agreed during the MC session that, should we want to during our 2 week holiday commencing next week, we should also take the opportunity to talk at length.

So all I can do is to be "that man" and just see how it all shakes out.