I echo what Blue said. I am glad someone said it. I hope for your and the boys sake he doesn't come back. He has proven twice over he can't be a good husband and father and I would hate to see him do this to you and your boys for a third time.
And he is not going through a MLC. He hasn't grown up enough to have one. He simply never grew up and is choosing not to handle the responsibility of a wife and 3 children. He is still too selfish and immature to handle real life.
I am sorry to say all of this. When I was in the thick of it, I wanted nothing more than for my ex to come back. We just had a baby and I wouldn't believe he was doing this. My dad is my best friend but gave him zero grace and gives him none to this day. he hates him. And if I did take him back and he did this again? He'd probably beat the living sh!t out of him. IN retrospect, 9 years later, I can see it was actually a blessing he never came back. Not if he is who he is. And 9 years later he still is who he is.
I know this is a divorce busting site. But some people are very toxic. Your H is one of them. To do this twice when you have little kids is inexcusable to me.
You are young, bright, talented, and have loads of support from your parents. You maybe can't see it now, but I see your life being infinitely better without him. Even your boys, sadly enough.
