I hope the MC sessions are helping. I went back to catch up on your thread, and noticed that the C said your W accused you of being controlling. From what I can determine, the WW's two most used cards are 1) Controlling; and 2) Guilt. She accuses the H of controlling behavior, or she'll try to get what she wants by making him feel guilty. I'm sure there are probably more, but these two appear the most.
How has the tension been between the two of you since MC started? Is she still eager in the bedroom? If I may offer something for you to tuck under your hat, women like want to feel desirable. If she has to initiate making love every time, she could wonder if she is no longer desirable........especially as she begins to see her youth fade. It's just as hard on the beautiful woman as it is for the plain one (maybe even more).
I don't know why this has popped into my brain......but it won't cost anything. I often tell H's that when they compliment their W.........don't sound like a husband. An example of the H compliments is, "You look nice today". We like it to sound much more intimate from our H. "If you catch me staring today, it's b/c that blouse really brings out your beautiful blue eyes". Or better yet.......skip the blouse and just tell her how her beautify eyes make you feel.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I often tell H's that when they compliment their W.........don't sound like a 
We like it to sound much more intimate from our H. "If you catch me staring today, it's b/c that blouse really brings out your beautiful blue eyes". Or better yet.......skip the blouse and just tell her how her beautify eyes make you feel.