Andrew- This lawyer that I am getting an appointment with is the same one I consulted with back in January, and he (really his partner) has the best reputation here in town for divorces, so at least that eliminates my H being able to use him, since I've already had one consultation with him.
Cadence and Ownit- yes, admittedly my S did make me think more about what I need to do, but I fully expected that from him. He's a worrier, and I know wants to save me from future pain, and to see me financially protect myself. I think I am doing the logical, sensible thing in making the appointment, but then waiting a month to see him. That way there's much less chance of my filing being a "knee-jerk" reaction to the pain, and also my NOT filing, based on my feelings after seeing him. I just need more time. And that I have plenty of, thankfully.
Thanks for everyone's input! I value it and this place is a wonderful resource to get input from people who already know so much about your situation, but also people from all walks of life and personal experiences, who can offer from their perspective.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
