Still here. Still not detached...

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The world is full of little things that condition men to be subservient to women. I biggest pet peeve is the saying "Happy wife, happy life". Even the old chivalry that men should never hit a woman. I would never do it but I think women take advantage of knowing it. They are emboldened to treat men like dirt because there are no consequences. And most women have no hesitation to slap and hit men. However, when you stand up they back down on that garbage. For example, my step mom had a thing to smack me for the smallest thing. When I was in my mid-teens I decided I had enough and just blocked her arm and held it until she gave up. Said "I think that's enough of that". Never got smacked again.

Another example, years later same step mom got irate after dinner because I didn't get to washing dishes fast enough. Mind you I was married with 2 kids and was just visiting. I packed up the family and went home immediately. Wrote a letter that night telling her that she may ask me politely to help with dishes but I will not be subject to crazy, irate rants any more. If she wants us to come over again I require an apology and acknowledgement that I am not her slave. A written apology came a week later. No more crazy rants.

A more recent example is with my wife. I was telling her some problems I was having working through and didn't know how to move forward. Instead of discussing my issue she went to her problems. After a few minutes I had to stop her and get her back to why I called her. She wanted to talk about her problem. I flat out said "god you're selfish, everything has to be about you." After a little back and forth she finally acknowledged maybe she was selfish. Years ago I would have just let it go. No more of putting her on a pedestal garbage as we are conditioned. We are equals in this relationship.