Her unfaithfulness is more about wanting to act single and hit on guys. There is no single object of desire.
Yeah that happens a lot. They like to fantasize about being single and meeting some white knight.
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Let me clarify some. Since the last counseling session, I have been much better and she has noticed the improvement. I have not argued one time.
Good. Keep working on your 180s. At first she'll think they are tricks to get her back, so you have to be consistent, and you have to be patient.
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She still says she loves and we are having sex again.
It's fine to keep having sex, as long as you don't get your hopes up that it means everything is better. She's still struggling so again, be patient.
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Friday night date came out of counseling and something she wanted to do. She is paying for it and I am setting it up. I feel like I cannot cancel that, so:
How do I handle the date night?
Let her do all the talking. LISTEN and VALIDATE. Nothing more. No R talk at all. Keep things light and fluffy!
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Right now I'm so confused, I guess I'm playing it safe. I don't want to give her an ultimatum (i.e. quit the theater life and open your phone) as that would push her out the door.
Definitely not the time for that. That needs to wait until she expresses interest in saving the M, and that could be months away.
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I guess I will just continue to be nice and polite. Be loving without pursuing. Go on dates without being needy. It's kind of a middle ground area that is going to be hard to navigate.
