It sounds like she is mean to you and doesn't respect you. It appears to me you need to pull back on the Beta activity and up the Alpha activity. Set some boundaries for yourself and stop doing all the chores. Make time for yourself, go out with some guy friends, plan activities without her involved.
I'm not an expert but just my 10 cents.
Your original question was about the movies. Your call but most vets around here would probably tell you to decline because you have wonderful activities planned for yourself!
