D started at her new school today and I wished her luck. It really just hammers home that this all real and I really am not her step-dad anymore.
You don't call her SD, you call her D, right? And here you are wishing her luck in her new school, which means you're still talking to her (which also means that your W is letting you talk to her). You and your W aren't together, but you still have that relationship with D, and that fact that your W is allowing that implies that SHE recognizes that as well. Don't lose sight of that in your grief.
Work will work out, one way or another. Either you'll find a working relationship with new boss, or you'll find yourself a better boss to work for. Don't lose sight of THAT, either.
