Looking for some advice

[mxdup]

How should I handle the Mrs wanting to hang out as friends? She asked me if I wanted to go see a movie with her tonight.

mxdup,

I don't know what to tell you about going with her to the movie. What concerns me is that you feel like she's been pushing you away for the past year and that she's been working more hours during that time. Those are both indicators that there's a third party in the mix (even though she claims otherwise). Her reasons for wanting a divorce seem rather hollow. It's the kind of stuff both of you could work on and resolve. My feeling is that she's trying to keep you in the friend zone because she's not yet fully committed to whomever it is that she met at work.

As usual, my disclaimer is that I'm often wrong; be sure to get input from others.

She actually has since quit her main job where she was working so many hours. She now only works her part time job which is only a few days a week.

I agree her reasons seem very hollow. When the bomb drop occurred she never actually said the D word. She said that we had grown apart and that she missed her apartment that she had when we were dating. She has mentioned numerous times that she feels like she has to do everything. With that said, I do 90% of all household work because she was working so much. She also says on a regular basis that I'm lazy and that I never do anything. I've asked her for examples but she can't provide any. When I remind her of the household chores she just gets angry and brings up something from months ago. "Remember last November when I told you that I needed a shelf hung up? That took you weeks." Then she usually goes on a tantrum saying things like you can't help me, nobody can and I need to clone myself. It's very obvious that she's stressed out and overwhelmed but suddenly one day I became the problem. Now that she's quit her main job she should be experiencing a huge stress relief so we'll see how that plays out.