Ha ha ha at the comment about feigning interest in the grey car!
I love the way you you really think things through and put your thoughts on paper (well virtual paper) in such an articulate manner. I need to try that as I seem to be all over the place.
Again, so much of what you write applies and resonates with me. I have no doubt you will be fine. I think one of the challenges going through this, is wondering and dreading how you will feel when certain steps become reality. In all of this you have the comfort and knowledge that you tried your darnedest and are not playing the victim card but moving forward. H cannot say the same and later if he ever snaps out if it, he will have to deal with that and by then this will all be a dulling chapter in life. He is an idiot.
Me-54 H-49 T-1. M-7 BD 6/13 ILYBN I threw him out OW - 3/13 OW2 on and off Overlap w/Ow1and OW3 OW3 - 8/17 H filed 1/17