Also, she complimented me today about how I'm taking care of everything around the house. And then added "if you had done this 5 years ago, things could have been different today"
Ah, don't you believe it for a minute! If a woman is in love, she is not going to leave him b/c he didn't wash the dishes, or whatever around the house. At least, a normal woman wouldn't end her M over something like that. However, if she grew up being pampered and spoiled by her parents, and if you came along and followed their example and accommodated her to the extreme.......then she is probably very spoiled and feels entitled. I get the impression her family caters to her wishes, and that's why she wants to go back. These are the worst, b/c they are consumed with selfishness. Does she do her share around the house?
As much as she is talking about moving, don't you think she's prepping for mother's arrival? I think that has been the plan between her and her mother. She'll take the kids out of school, move them to her country......and you can leave or stay. You may want to get legal advice and see if there's anything you can do to prevent her taking your children out of the country.
You did really good by telling her you have plans to go out.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
